I hung out with Jerry a lot. I loved his humor and his family, whom I became very close with as time went. I found myself going over there nearly everyday and staying the night at times. I even slept with Jerry in the same bed, which was unheard of in that day. If you were doing that people automatically assumed you were fooling around. Not in our case.
Playing games and going to the mall to the arcade and photo booth passed time quickly. After getting to know his mother (Wilma) and his five siblings: Juanita, Loren, Galen, Teresa, and Jeff. I began developing very true feelings for Jerry. I became good friends with his sister Teresa and told her of my feelings. Come to find out Jerry had wondered if we should give each other a shot, but he was afraid of jeopardizing what we had. Which honestly I understood that, but in my heart I did not care.
Well as years went on and I still fought back how I felt and every once in a while would mention to him that I still had feelings for him, he remained a gentleman. He never took what we had for granted or shunned me for what ever mistakes I made or how I looked. He accepted me for me and I loved him for that.
I got married, I still had feelings for him. In my heart I still wondered. So after time passed and I came back around to hang out with Jerry again. I noticed how his brother Jeff was acting. It was no different than when we were younger. I just grew up and realized he was flirting. Did Jeff and I go out on dates?..... Yes when we were young but I looked at it as hanging out. But knowing what I know now and the things he said to me I would have thought different.
After some of the family moved away Jeff came around to my house weekly. Every Sunday after church he would come over. He played with my kids and we hung out. I came to realize that Jerry and I were not going to happen cause I know God had different plans for Jerry. So one Sunday morning I was walking across the foyer in our church and Jeff was standing there. The room was crowded and it was like everything became mute. I heard nothing but one word, "Marriage." I chuckled inside and said," Yeah right God. That is funny. This is Jeff." But I prayed and told God I did not want to love Jeff like the world loves or like how I loved his brother Jerry, so if God wanted me to be with Jeff HE was going to have to give me the feelings I needed to have for him.
Well I began feeling butterflies when he came over...weird I thought. My second oldest daughter Equilla asked Jeff if he liked me and he said yes. I felt my stomach do summersaults. After one and half years from hearing God in the foyer at church, I could not calm my butterflies, nor stop the pitter patter of my heart. I told my daughters and although it took some getting use to they accepted the inevitable. I told Jeff how I felt. He let me know he has loved me since we were kids but he know I liked his brother and he felt he never had a chance. He said he could not just walk away this time and been praying for God to do something because he never had a girlfriend and was inexperienced in how to express his self without being rejected and laughed at. That following week we went on our first true date, that was July 16,2011. We got married October 29,2011. He became the man I needed and I did not realize that practically all my life MR. RIGHT was in front of my face.
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